While chewing is a natural process for teething puppies, they need objects of their own to chew on so they do not mistake their owner’s shoes, the legs of furniture, and other objects for chew toys. Heavy nylon ropes tied in a knot and squeaky toys are good for small dogs. Rawhide chews are not recommended any more because pieces can unravel and pose a choking hazard for some dogs.
During this phase of your puppy or dog’s life, they should be supervised as much as possible and corrected when they chew on something other than “their” toys. Dogs, like people, need their own toys, blankets, and bedding to feel secure. Toys can be shared of course, when the dog is ready. But it is vital that you establish early on what is “theirs” and what is “yours” to avoid trouble in the future.
For the first few weeks after bringing your new dog home, he will need to become acclimated to his surroundings. Whether you choose to crate train or not, keep the puppy in a small confined area at night and when you cannot supervise him or her. You can use a small plastic baby gate to close off an area of the kitchen during the day to keep the puppy safe and out of trouble while you’re gone.
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This chewing phase should end at around eight months or so. If you have an older dog that chews just follow the same steps above. You can enlarge their play area as they gain more trust, but keep things like shoes and personal items off the floor.
If you come home to find that they have chewed up your favorite shoes, resist scolding them for their bad behavior, and offer them one of their toys instead. A stern look of displeasure followed by a firm “no” goes a long way to helping them learn what is acceptable. You may need to repeat this several times until they “get it” that this is theirs and that is not.
How quickly they learn what is acceptable to chew and what is not depends entirely upon your training and your dog’s personality. Most dogs will stop inappropriate chewing with instruction and correction within a few weeks.
The economist J.K. Galbraith once wrote, “Faced with a choice between changing one’s mind and proving there is no need to do so, almost everyone gets busy with the proof.”
Leo Tolstoy was even bolder: “The most difficult subjects can be explained to the most slow-witted man if he has not formed any idea of them already; but the simplest thing cannot be made clear to the most intelligent man if he is firmly persuaded that he knows already, without a shadow of doubt, what is laid before him.”
What’s going on here? Why don’t facts change our minds? And why would someone continue to believe a false or inaccurate idea anyway? How do such behaviors serve us?
Humans need a reasonably accurate view of the world in order to survive. If your model of reality is wildly different from the actual world, then you struggle to take effective actions each day.
However, truth and accuracy are not the only things that matter to the human mind. Humans also seem to have a deep desire to belong.
In Atomic Habits, I wrote, “Humans are herd animals. We want to fit in, to bond with others, and to earn the respect and approval of our peers. Such inclinations are essential to our survival. For most of our evolutionary history, our ancestors lived in tribes. Becoming separated from the tribe—or worse, being cast out—was a death sentence.”
Understanding the truth of a situation is important, but so is remaining part of a tribe. While these two desires often work well together, they occasionally come into conflict.
In many circumstances, social connection is actually more helpful to your daily life than understanding the truth of a particular fact or idea. The Harvard psychologist Steven Pinker put it this way, “People are embraced or condemned according to their beliefs, so one function of the mind may be to hold beliefs that bring the belief-holder the greatest number of allies, protectors, or disciples, rather than beliefs that are most likely to be true.”
We don’t always believe things because they are correct. Sometimes we believe things because they make us look good to the people we care about.
I thought Kevin Simler put it well when he wrote, “If a brain anticipates that it will be rewarded for adopting a particular belief, it’s perfectly happy to do so, and doesn’t much care where the reward comes from — whether it’s pragmatic (better outcomes resulting from better decisions), social (better treatment from one’s peers), or some mix of the two.”
False beliefs can be useful in a social sense even if they are not useful in a factual sense. For lack of a better phrase, we might call this approach “factually false, but socially accurate.” When we have to choose between the two, people often select friends and family over facts.
This insight not only explains why we might hold our tongue at a dinner party or look the other way when our parents say something offensive, but also reveals a better way to change the minds of others.
Convincing someone to change their mind is really the process of convincing them to change their tribe. If they abandon their beliefs, they run the risk of losing social ties. You can’t expect someone to change their mind if you take away their community too. You have to give them somewhere to go. Nobody wants their worldview torn apart if loneliness is the outcome.
The way to change people’s minds is to become friends with them, to integrate them into your tribe, to bring them into your circle. Now, they can change their beliefs without the risk of being abandoned socially.
The British philosopher Alain de Botton suggests that we simply share meals with those who disagree with us:
“Sitting down at a table with a group of strangers has the incomparable and odd benefit of making it a little more difficult to hate them with impunity. Prejudice and ethnic strife feed off abstraction. However, the proximity required by a meal – something about handing dishes around, unfurling napkins at the same moment, even asking a stranger to pass the salt – disrupts our ability to cling to the belief that the outsiders who wear unusual clothes and speak in distinctive accents deserve to be sent home or assaulted. For all the large-scale political solutions which have been proposed to salve ethnic conflict, there are few more effective ways to promote tolerance between suspicious neighbours than to force them to eat supper together.”
Perhaps it is not difference, but distance that breeds tribalism and hostility. As proximity increases, so does understanding. I am reminded of Abraham Lincoln’s quote, “I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.”
Facts don’t change our minds. Friendship does.
Years ago, Ben Casnocha mentioned an idea to me that I haven’t been able to shake: The people who are most likely to change our minds are the ones we agree with on 98 percent of topics.
If someone you know, like, and trust believes a radical idea, you are more likely to give it merit, weight, or consideration. You already agree with them in most areas of life. Maybe you should change your mind on this one too. But if someone wildly different than you proposes the same radical idea, well, it’s easy to dismiss them as a crackpot.
One way to visualize this distinction is by mapping beliefs on a spectrum. If you divide this spectrum into 10 units and you find yourself at Position 7, then there is little sense in trying to convince someone at Position 1. The gap is too wide. When you’re at Position 7, your time is better spent connecting with people who are at Positions 6 and 8, gradually pulling them in your direction.
The most heated arguments often occur between people on opposite ends of the spectrum, but the most frequent learning occurs from people who are nearby. The closer you are to someone, the more likely it becomes that the one or two beliefs you don’t share will bleed over into your own mind and shape your thinking. The further away an idea is from your current position, the more likely you are to reject it outright.
When it comes to changing people’s minds, it is very difficult to jump from one side to another. You can’t jump down the spectrum. You have to slide down it.
Any idea that is sufficiently different from your current worldview will feel threatening. And the best place to ponder a threatening idea is in a non-threatening environment. As a result, books are often a better vehicle for transforming beliefs than conversations or debates.
In conversation, people have to carefully consider their status and appearance. They want to save face and avoid looking stupid. When confronted with an uncomfortable set of facts, the tendency is often to double down on their current position rather than publicly admit to being wrong.
Books resolve this tension. With a book, the conversation takes place inside someone’s head and without the risk of being judged by others. It’s easier to be open-minded when you aren’t feeling defensive.
Arguments are like a full frontal attack on a person’s identity. Reading a book is like slipping the seed of an idea into a person’s brain and letting it grow on their own terms. There’s enough wrestling going on in someone’s head when they are overcoming a pre-existing belief. They don’t need to wrestle with you too.
There is another reason bad ideas continue to live on, which is that people continue to talk about them.
Silence is death for any idea. An idea that is never spoken or written down dies with the person who conceived it. Ideas can only be remembered when they are repeated. They can only be believed when they are repeated.
I have already pointed out that people repeat ideas to signal they are part of the same social group. But here’s a crucial point most people miss:
People also repeat bad ideas when they complain about them. Before you can criticize an idea, you have to reference that idea. You end up repeating the ideas you’re hoping people will forget—but, of course, people can’t forget them because you keep talking about them. The more you repeat a bad idea, the more likely people are to believe it.
Let’s call this phenomenon Clear’s Law of Recurrence: The number of people who believe an idea is directly proportional to the number of times it has been repeated during the last year—even if the idea is false.
Each time you attack a bad idea, you are feeding the very monster you are trying to destroy. As one Twitter employee wrote, “Every time you retweet or quote tweet someone you’re angry with, it helps them. It disseminates their BS. Hell for the ideas you deplore is silence. Have the discipline to give it to them.”
Your time is better spent championing good ideas than tearing down bad ones. Don’t waste time explaining why bad ideas are bad. You are simply fanning the flame of ignorance and stupidity.
The best thing that can happen to a bad idea is that it is forgotten. The best thing that can happen to a good idea is that it is shared. It makes me think of Tyler Cowen’s quote, “Spend as little time as possible talking about how other people are wrong.”
Feed the good ideas and let bad ideas die of starvation.
I know what you might be thinking. “James, are you serious right now? I’m just supposed to let these idiots get away with this?”
Let me be clear. I’m not saying it’s never useful to point out an error or criticize a bad idea. But you have to ask yourself, “What is the goal?”
Why do you want to criticize bad ideas in the first place? Presumably, you want to criticize bad ideas because you think the world would be better off if fewer people believed them. In other words, you think the world would improve if people changed their minds on a few important topics.
If the goal is to actually change minds, then I don’t believe criticizing the other side is the best approach.
Most people argue to win, not to learn. As Julia Galef so aptly puts it: people often act like soldiers rather than scouts. Soldiers are on the intellectual attack, looking to defeat the people who differ from them. Victory is the operative emotion. Scouts, meanwhile, are like intellectual explorers, slowly trying to map the terrain with others. Curiosity is the driving force.
If you want people to adopt your beliefs, you need to act more like a scout and less like a soldier. At the center of this approach is a question Tiago Forte poses beautifully, “Are you willing to not win in order to keep the conversation going?”
The brilliant Japanese writer Haruki Murakami once wrote, “Always remember that to argue, and win, is to break down the reality of the person you are arguing against. It is painful to lose your reality, so be kind, even if you are right.”
When we are in the moment, we can easily forget that the goal is to connect with the other side, collaborate with them, befriend them, and integrate them into our tribe. We are so caught up in winning that we forget about connecting. It’s easy to spend your energy labeling people rather than working with them.
The word “kind” originated from the word “kin.” When you are kind to someone it means you are treating them like family. This, I think, is a good method for actually changing someone’s mind. Develop a friendship. Share a meal. Gift a book.
Be kind first, be right later.
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A wonderful serenity has taken possession of my entire soul, like these sweet mornings of spring which I enjoy with my whole heart. Even the all-powerful Pointing has no control about the blind texts it is an almost unorthographic life One day however a small line of blind text by the name of Lorem Ipsum decided to leave for the far World of Grammar. The Big Oxmox advised her not to do so, because there were thousands of bad Commas, wild Question Marks and devious Semikoli, but the Little Blind Text didn’t listen.
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And if she hasn’t been rewritten, then they are still using her. Far far away, behind the word mountains, far from the countries Vokalia and Consonantia, there live the blind texts. Separated they live in Bookmarksgrove right at the coast of the Semantics, a large language ocean. A small river named Duden flows by their place and supplies it with the necessary regelialia.
A wonderful serenity has taken possession of my entire soul
On her way she met a copy. The copy warned the Little Blind Text, that where it came from it would have been rewritten a thousand times and everything that was left from its origin would be the word “and” and the Little Blind Text should turn around and return to its own, safe country.A wonderful serenity has taken possession of my entire soul, like these sweet mornings of spring which I enjoy with my whole heart. I am alone, and feel the charm of existence in this spot, which was created for the bliss of souls like mine. I am so happy, my dear friend, so absorbed in the exquisite sense of mere tranquil existence, that I neglect my talents.
But nothing the copy said could convince her and so it didn’t take long until a few insidious Copy Writers ambushed her, made her drunk with Longe and Parole and dragged her into their agency, where they abused her for their projects again and again.
Far far away, behind the word mountains, far from the countries Vokalia and Consonantia, there live the blind texts. Separated they live in Bookmarksgrove right at the coast of the Semantics, a large language ocean. A small river named Duden flows by their place and supplies it with the necessary regelialia. It is a paradisematic country, in which roasted parts of sentences fly into your mouth.
Walk down the Uluwatu beach
A collection of textile samples lay spread out on the table – Samsa was a travelling salesman – and above it there hung a picture that he had recently cut out of an illustrated magazine and housed in a nice, gilded frame. It showed a lady fitted out with a fur hat and fur boa who sat upright, raising a heavy fur muff that covered the whole of her lower arm towards the viewer.
Gregor then turned to look out the window at the dull weather. Drops of rain could be heard hitting the pane, which made him feel quite sad. “How about if I sleep a little bit longer and forget all this nonsense”, he thought, but that was something he was unable to do because he was used to sleeping on his right, and in his present state couldn’t get into that position. However hard he threw himself onto his right, he always rolled back to where he was.
One morning, when Gregor Samsa woke from troubled dreams, he found himself transformed in his bed into a horrible vermin. He lay on his armour-like back, and if he lifted his head a little he could see his brown belly, slightly domed and divided by arches into stiff sections. The bedding was hardly able to cover it and seemed ready to slide off any moment. His many legs, pitifully thin compared with the size of the rest of him, waved about helplessly as he looked. “What’s happened to me? ” he thought. It wasn’t a dream.
His room, a proper human room although a little too small, lay peacefully between its four familiar walls. A collection of textile samples lay spread out on the table – Samsa was a travelling salesman – and above it there hung a picture that he had recently cut out of an illustrated magazine and housed in a nice, gilded frame.
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Lonely girl waiting for a loved one on the beach
It is a paradisematic country, in which roasted parts of sentences fly into your mouth. One morning, when Gregor Samsa woke from troubled dreams, he found himself transformed in his bed into a horrible vermin. He lay on his armour-like back, and if he lifted his head a little he could see his brown belly, slightly domed and divided by arches into stiff sections. The bedding was hardly able to cover it and seemed ready to slide off any moment.
It showed a lady fitted out with a fur hat and fur boa who sat upright, raising a heavy fur muff that covered the whole of her lower arm towards the viewer. Gregor then turned to look out the window at the dull weather. Drops of rain could be heard hitting the pane, which made him feel quite sad.
Encourage your child to accept Criticism positively:-
“At every step, the child should be allowed to meet the real experience of life; the throne should never be plucked from his roses”- Ellen Key.
In class, mathematics teacher wrote a table of 8 on the board:-
8*1=8
8*2=16
8*3=24
8*4=32
8*5=40
8*6=48
8*7=56
8*8=64
8*9=72
8*10=79
After she finished she found students laughing at her. She inquired the reason to which everyone collectively said that she wrote the table wrong. Its 8*10=80, not 79.
Listening to this the teacher smiled and said I have purposely written the last line wrong to explain to you an important lesson in life. She explained, “I have written nine things right but sorry to say no one valued it. On the contrary, I made only one mistake and you all started laughing. That’s life! She continued, “These are few advice for everyone”-
a. Mistakes are different from failures. Failures never accept mistakes, whereas, winners accept their mistakes as a path towards excellence.
b. Train them the difference between constructive and destructive criticism.
c. Destructive criticism can lower their self-esteem, spirits, makes them livid or even antagonistic on the other hand, constructive criticism is explained as the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults, defects or mistakes.
d. Don’t aim for perfectionism every time. Sometimes the child is so afraid of not meeting his/her or your expectations that they fear from trying new things.
e. During challenging situation instruct them to stay calm and not to respond to a critic in anger as it can create a negative influence on them and others. Take it as a learning experience.
f. Teach them to use criticism in a positive way to improve and grow as admitting when we are wrong and rectifying our mistake is not a sign of weakness but of a strong character.
g. If someone has pointed out your kid’s mistakes (and they are disheartened) instead of saying, “why can’t you understand’ or “why you can’t do anything right?” start with positive talk, “look son/daughter accept it and work on it.” This offers him/her opportunity for personal enhancement and learning.
Wow… such brilliant piece of advice. Let us all implement it in our lives.
In this modern world where beauty is defined by the way you look, body shape plays a vital role in portraying who you are. Starting with Instagram to red carpets and even mother cares, corsets have set the trend for waist training and shaping. So, what type of Corsets trend in the market? Starting from the Underbust Corsets, there is a wide variety in the market, but laced corsets have their place in a modern women’s wardrobe. So, what kind of laces and ribbons do serious waist trainers look into?
Double-Face Satin Ribbon
With double face satin in use, you might have to spend more, but it is undoubtedly worth the money as you will be paid back with a firm grain that will stay steady even under stressful situations and won’t spread out. Double-Face Satin Ribbon has another perk of its own; in case you wish for a replacement, you can find it at any store nearby with great ease. While the option for Satin Ribbons, you can also opt for satin rat-tail cord that provides great beauty and strength.
Round Cords
If you are seriously looking into long-term waist training, the round cords would be the best option, as it is stronger and durable than plain laces. Even though a bit bulky, round cords do their job well and are one of the best options for daily users. Round cords have several variations, which include polyester cord and 550 paracords. Round polyester cord is a better option when it comes to the list and varieties available in the market as it is budget-friendly and very effective in use. 550 paracord is yet another option in round cords as it is of good strength and support of up to 550 pounds of tension.
Shoelaces
Shoelace is best for budget users as it is very cost-effective, readily available and present in varied shades and colors matching any outfit. They are both durable and robust, making it the best option for those who prefer short term usage of corsets.
It is essential to choose your type of corset carefully as each one has its own pros and cons. It is all about appearance and perfect shape! Choose your corsets wisely and lace it up to build an attitude that is both pretty and tempting. The market has a lot to choose from and a good research can help you pick the right one for you.
If you are going to have a baby, you should look your best during your pregnancy period as it’s a special period in your life. The right type of maternity clothes will help you look your best and enjoy comfort at the same time. If you are going to buy maternity clothes, we suggest that you consider the following things first.
1. Season
First of all, you should consider the season. When will you achieve your maximum pregnancy? Will it happen in summer or autumn? Ideally, you may want to opt for an outfit that will be best based on the season. For instance, if you want to buy a jacket, make sure it can give you the warmth you need to fight the cold season.
2. Style
Your second important factor is your style. In other words, you should get clothes that can meet your style requirements. Also, do you like to try drapy, loose or short clothing? It’s not a good idea to choose something that you don’t like at all. For instance, if you don’t like tops, v-necks, sleeves or jeans, look for something else.
3. Function
If you work in an office, you may want to opt for at least 8 pairs of maternity jeans. It’s important to consider what your job will be for the following 9 to 10 months. In other words, based on the type of job you do, you may want to choose the right type of outfit.
4. Underwear
During the first three months, you should opt for a soft, supportive but stretchy non-wired bra as your breasts may get bigger and can be painful as well.
During the next 5 months, you may want to buy a well-designed bra for nursing that will be flexible enough and provide better support at the same time.
After the 5th month, your ribcage will be widest. Therefore, you should purchase a smaller band size as your ribcage is going to decrease significantly.
Four weeks after the birth of your baby, your breasts will hit their maximum size. At this stage, you can use the same dress you put on during the first three months of your pregnancy.
5. Try the Outfits Before You Buy Them
It’s a good idea to try your dress before you place your order. When you are pregnant, your hips, belly and other parts of the body tend to put on fat. Therefore, it’s important that you try each dress you purchase. This way you won’t have to get back to the store to return the item that didn’t fit you well.
Also, make sure you purchase only those items that you really need. After all, you don’t want to spend all your money on your pregnancy clothing.
6. Shoes
If you love stiletto’s, you can give a go to some flats. What you need to do is put on natural or leather fibers. The reason is that they grow better as your feet swell during pregnancy. It’s a good idea to add a few comfortable inner soles to your regular footwear.
So, these are some factors you should consider before buying outfits during your pregnancy period.
Porosity pertains to the hair’s ability to absorb and retain moisture. This also includes the rate at which water and/or topical products that are applied to the hair are absorbed into the strands. The more porous your hair is, the more moisture it can hold, making it healthier and easier to manage. During the course of a lifetime, porosity can change.
There are three levels of Hair Porosity so let’s, discuss this in further detail.
1. HIGH POROSITY
If someone has high porosity, it means they have a hard time keeping their hair moisturized. And, even with regular attention, the texture and overall appearance of the hair can seem dry… controlling frizz is also harder. This is because the hair cuticle itself has signs of damage. The cuticle is the outermost layer of the strand. If you were to examine it very closely, you would see cracking, splitting and irregular texture. A person with high porosity hair can absorb moisture fast, but they can also lose moisture just as easily. In order for hair to retain moisture, the follicle needs to be “Closed”, but in this situation the process is a struggle. As you age, hair naturally tends to develop a higher porosity level. Things that accelerate this process are long-term use of chemicals and exposing the hair to high levels of heat from blow dryers, flat irons, curling irons, etc.
2. NORMAL POROSITY
If you have normal hair porosity you are winning! Balanced hair is generally healthy, and the follicle can both absorb and retain moisture with minimal problems.
3. LOW POROSITY
When you’re young, the hair generally has a lower porosity level. Having low porosity means that the hair follicle doesn’t absorb moisture as quickly as high porosity hair. This also means water and topical products do not penetrate the hair easily, having little to no effect. Even though the cuticles are healthy, hair can still have a dry appearance.
There is a test you can do to determine your porosity level. Get a clear glass and fill it halfway with water. Place a strand of your hair in the water and wait about 5-10 minutes. If your hair floats on top of the water, you have LOW porosity. If it hangs out in middle of the water, you have NORMAL porosity. If your strand is sitting at the bottom of the glass, you have HIGH porosity.
Regardless of your hair type or texture, hair porosity can be determined the same way.
If you have high porosity try applying a deep conditioner or protein treatment to the hair once a week. It will also provide some relief to brittle, damaged hair. Wash conditioner out in cool water, this helps to close the follicle and seal in moisture.
If you have low porosity, try using a steamer, and apply products that are rich in humectants.
Once the cuticle has become damaged, the focus then becomes preventing further harm. We know that excessive heat and chemical processes contribute to this damage, if possible start to eliminate or reduce the frequency of those routines. Try letting your hair air dry overnight. If that’s not possible invest in hair dryer that you can sit under. It usually has three temperature settings, choose low or medium if you can. It may take longer for your hair to dry but hair health should be the priority.
Also, limit sun exposure, too much direct sunlight on the hair can also strip it of moisture. If you must be outside for an extended period of time, cover it with a scarf or hat.
Do you know someone who is blundering some way? Do not pinpoint his mistakes directly. Why? Because s/he may feel less than or humiliated. There is an art to rectify them. How is it possible? Read on to find out.
Here are some ways:
Do not let him understand the motive of your conversation. Start talking with him generally, about his family, what his family members are doing, how he is finding the projects at work and which ones he is finding interesting. Then casually say that there is something you would like him to improve. His get up is not appropriate for office. Ask him to look at the people around him and what they are wearing. No jeans, no sport shoes. Ask him to emulate them right away.
Then tell him everything else is okay with him. You think he is a good and efficient coworker. Buy him lunch and continue your conversation in a light tone until he is comfortable back in his skin. Your objective behind your conversation is fulfilled without embarrassing or angering him.
Another example could be that you are not satisfied with the formatting of a document done by a coworker. The best way to approach him would be to say something good about him at first. For instance, he is always punctual about submitting his work. You let him know that. Then tell him gently what it is about the document you find unsatisfactory. Given the initial praise, your coworker would take in the criticism more openly and happily.
The same applies to your family and kids. Your spouse may be erring somewhere in the household, which you may not like. Don’t let her understand what your intention is behind striking a jolly conversation with her. Let her know politely what she is doing wrong with a household appliance.
Share coffee together and add other topics to your conversation. Then your spouse will be happy to take your advice with no grudges. She will hardly understand the motive behind your conversation and she will be delighted to handle the household appliance in a way you like the next time she uses it.
Teenage kids are hard to handle. Your son may be watching too many movies and cartoons on the TV more than giving time to doing homework and studying. Sit beside your son. Tell him all the good qualities about him- the way he lends a helping hand in the household activities, the way he loves both his parents and grandparents and the way he picks up his friends.
Then in a delicate tone after the good dose, let him know that you are disappointed in him that he neglects doing homework and studying which is an important part of his life. Now is the time to build his foundation in knowledge. If he doesn’t pay attention to school, he will always feel inferior and less than in future. Ask your son if he got your point and whether he will promise to be more regular with school.
Summing up, the two strategies I mentioned in this article are great ways to convince people to do things in a way you like, correcting them with no hard feelings on their side.
Better communication with you dog often involves understanding his behavior. This includes why your dog barks and how he wags his tail. These are two of the most often used methods your dog is using to convey a message to you other near-by human beings. These could indicate the need for affection or play. How your dog barks or wags his tail could also indicate feelings of fear or aggression within your fury friends mind.
Barking is a natural response to various situations. The type of bark your fury friend is projecting can indicate many things. When your dog barks it could often mean he is trying to get or attention. This could mean he is seeking affection or anticipating the start of play. His barking could also mean he senses a person about to enter his personal place. This could mean he is making you aware that someone is entering your personal place. Dogs will often bark when another dog is nearby. Certain barking patterns should be allowed if they are normal for your fury friends needs. However excessive barking should be discouraged.
When you dog wages his tail he could be trying to convey various types of messages. These messages could include a state of play or contentment. They way you dog wags his tail could also indicate fear or potential aggression. Feelings of fear or aggression within your dogs mind generally is brought on by something or someone in the vicinity that has triggered this response.
There are other indicators with regards to how your dog is trying to convey a message to you. This could involve how your dog is looking at you and various body positions he is making. Your dog might roll over in an attempt to get you to scratch him. He could also be standing on his hind legs with his front legs in the air seeking to get his chest scratched. Your dog could also look very intently at you with his or hers ears standing up, because he is begging for food. They might even tilt their head and sit on their hind legs with their front legs standing straight. Of course these gestures could also indicate that your dog is seeking to go outside.
It is interesting to note that dogs you spend more time around a larger group of people with learn a greater number of ways to communicate. Some research shows to mean they are becoming smarter and could be helpful in making to behave in a more appropriate manner.
Many people who have suffered tremendous emotional trauma (for example, the recently bereaved, people in war-torn countries, those who have been tortured or sexually molested) or physical hurt (e.g. severe neglect, debilitating injuries) recover entirely or near completely from their tragedy. However, others do not fare as well and continue to relive the same horrific experiences of morbid fear, anguish, and anxiety for a prolonged period of time. These latter groups of people have been traumatized by their bad experiences.
In their book, “Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma,” Levine and Frederick (1997), said that this is a result of bottled-up somatosensory symptoms emanating after trauma. There are three main ways people respond when faced with a traumatic experience, said Levine and Frederick (1997). They can fight (confront the situation), flee (get away from the situation), or freeze (be totally overwhelmed by the predicament to the point of immobility). Victims who apply a fight or flee solution to a traumatic experience fare better in dealing with trauma than people who freeze in response to shock (Levine & Frederick, 1997). This state of suspended animation and paralysis occurs unconsciously and involuntarily. During this state of freeze, the victim has no way of going through all the typical reactions associated with traumatic events (Levine & Frederick, 1997). Because they are not adequately discharged by the victim, the trapped emotions wreak havoc on the traumatized individual.
The solution to trauma is, therefore, to guide the victim along a path (Experiential Sensation-FELT SENSE) that allows them to perceive and release those trapped emotions (Levine & Frederick, 1997). This approach to healing trauma was garnered by learning how animals recover from traumatic experience (Levine & Frederick 1997). Confronting trauma, said Levine and Frederick (1997), should be mostly on an emotional, limbic brain level, and not solely on the rational, executive brain level.
Levine and Frederick’s trauma theory is also supported in some ways by the polyvagal theory, which suggests that trauma has a somatic experiential component. If, as indicated by the polyvagal theory and by the Levine and Frederick (1997) theory, that trauma has strong emotional roots, one can apply elements of relationship models such as the DIR model in addressing trauma. After determining the victim’s functional emotional development capacity level, a DIR practitioner can begin to appeal, build and strengthen discovered areas of weaknesses, thus allowing the victim to escape the shackling phenomena of a past traumatic event. Calming the traumatized individual is a tool in the DIR toolbox with which to regulate traumatized individuals. A calmed mind creates an opportunity for further regulation of emotions and understanding of deep-rooted feelings, all of which are needed for trauma victims to extricate themselves from the shackles of the past and begin to attain new heights of functional capacity.
Other applicable trauma theories include the NARM model, which, focusing on the mind, suggests that trauma is associated with a maladaptation in the victim’s attachment history. The PTSD model suggests that trauma victims are applying to their current problems solutions which had worked and were appropriate in the past.
In my opinion, while attachment and trauma appear as opposite ends of the same emotional realm, it is apparent that whereas attachment is mostly positive, except, for example, in cases of extreme attachment/dependency, trauma is almost always negative, at least until it resolves. Treatment of trauma requires a dedicated practitioner, who is ready to learn from their victims and understand their challenges in order to develop an appropriate management strategy.
Recognizing the signs and symptoms of trauma, making timely referrals to a trauma specialist, and integrating several of the modalities mentioned would likely give the best result in the management of traumatized children and adults.
Reference
Levine, P. A., & Frederick, A. (1997). Waking the tiger: Healing trauma: The innate capacity to transform overwhelming experiences. Berkeley, CA: North Atlantic Books.
